Our Infertility Journey

Every infertility journey is different, ours may be shorter than some but was a devastating process for us, with a beautiful ending. We did everything “right”, I dated my high school sweet heart, graduated, traveled, got engaged, then married, bought a house and then tried and tried and tired for that perfect bundle of joy. 

You see. I am very Type A. I schedule my day, week, month, and year. When my “schedule” didn't go as planned, I was devastated. 

My husband is a “it will happen when it happens” kind of guy, but deep down I knew something was wrong. After a year of hiding our struggles and answering everyone's questions with “someday” I scheduled my appointment with my OBGYN. 

To start our infertility process, my doctor performed many blood tests, cycle tracking, and ovulation tracking. After a month, we unfortunately got the news that I do not ovulate and probably never have. We were referred to our local infertility clinic. 

In Des Moines, Iowa, we only have one, it took almost two months to get in. The wait. Is awful. I was so anxious for our first appointment, I decided to write down every question I had. Let me tell you, if I could give one piece of advice I would say to write down everything. 

Buy a cute journal that you don't mind taking with you at all times, it's great to have for questions and to keep track of your cycles. The first step at Mid-Iowa Fertility Center was to do additional testing including a Hysterosalpingogram (HSG), while this procedure is fairly quick please be prepared it is painful- at least for me. After my additional tests it was confirmed, I just simply didn’t ovulate. 

We started Clomiphene (Clomid), every month upping the dosage until I was at the max. It was our last shot. I finally ovulated! The day I got that little smiley face on the ovulation stick, I cried. 

Calling the infertility clinic right away. They got me in that day, only to disappoint. I only had one follicle, and it was fairly weak. We still received the green light to go in the next morning to do the IUI (Intrauterine insemination). I received my “trigger shot” otherwise known as HCG hormone. 

To give you insight on the actual process. The IUI itself is fairly painless and quick. To keep my mind off it all we decided to go walk around the mall. After a little shopping, I did have some cramping but nothing a nap couldn’t cure! 

Symptoms I had during implantation: Dizziness, feeling of bloat and discomfort, and cramping. 

Morning of Day 14: We woke up at 5:30 to work out, I took a test before we went and it was positive! I had always dreamed of surprising my husband when we got pregnant but I couldn't hold it in. I literally burst the door open and told him. 

That morning we went in and got the great news. There were cells and they were growing nice and strong. 

Following the IUI, I had appointments every 72 hours to measure my HCG levels hoping they would double. They did!! After we made it to 12 weeks we were transferred to a normal OBGYN and on October 2nd, 2018 Mila-Grace was born. Our sweet girl. 

Everyone who goes through this process will have varying experiences. I am here to tell you you’re not alone in what you are going through. Please speak up if you need someone to talk to, no one should have to go through this process alone.